“When I’m not interested in sex, it makes me feel like I’m not a man. In fact, my wife wants it more than me so I came up with the excuse of chronic back pain. I think it’s easier for her to accept. What’s wrong with me?”
– David, Clifton, New Jersey
Three essential male vulnerabilities that many men grapple with.
The fear of rejection. The free and burdensome position of being the iniatator.
The fear of inadequacy. Am I competent enough, do I know what I’m doing?
How do I know if my partner, especially if they’re female, really enjoys it. What is that mystery of that other partner who I can never know what she really feels, because she can fake it.
Cat is a clinical sexologist, relationship psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, art therapist, transpersonal counsellor, sex and relationship educator and columnist and award winning, internationally published erotic photographer.
Cat O Dowd has made her career out of sexually empowering others through creativity and helping others find and create their dream relationships and sex life.
With 20 years of professional erotic, boudoir and fetish photography under her belt, Cat has photographed thousands of subjects around the world for fetish websites, coffee table books, porn magazines, kinky events, alternative weddings and intimate couple shoots.
Cat founded Australia’s first website dedicated to underground erotica and photographed hundreds of men and women in photo shoots in nature that strived to create a non mainstream body positive aesthetic. Photo stories were set in nature depicting modern interpretations of Greek mythology, fairy tales, archetypes and feminine strength.
When she’s not screaming in her band she’s busy writing her columns as the resident sex therapist and feature writer for Ciao magazine. She’s written for The Establishment, appeared on Triple J’s The Hack and The Hook Up, an ABC documentary about labiaplasty, NINEMSN, Cosmopolitan, Lesbians on the Loose, Picture and People magazine. Cat runs a private practice in Sydney and runs art and sex therapy workshops and retreats.
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