On my Creative Sexpression facebook I just asked this question, “What makes great sex and what makes a great lover?” Check it out for some insightful and also quite amusing replies.
I believe one of the answers to these questions is; good sexual communication. If there’s something you really want but don’t know how to ask for it, either in life or in the bedroom, how can you enjoy true fulfillment?
Good sexual communication is a must for good sex, relationships and connection. A strong sexual self esteem, being truly sexually empowered and brimming with self confidence are essential for sexual communication. If someone feels so low they are always looking for validation in others, it will be difficult for them to communicate from a healthy place. If someone is truly sexually empowered they will not take rejection personally. Book a session with me today to embark on my sexual confidence program.
Good sexual education and knowledge are important. Sexual myths and expectation and stereotypes about men and women can make sexual communication a shady and confusing place. In school we are often only taught about sex education from a negative angle, without any focus on the positive aspects of sex and pleasure. We are taught about sex from a disease prevention and basic reproductive anatomy angle. No wonder it is so hard for us to be good sexual communicators when we were never taught these skills!
Learning how to communicate our wants, needs and desires and negotiate these accordingly are important skills in sexual communication we were never taught in school. Being a good listener and positive communicator are contribute to sexual communication with a partner.