Want to photograph inside your vagina?

 

How exciting! Look what technology can do for us!  Now you can stimulate yourself at the same time as filming and photographing deep within your vagina!

This amazing new invention is a combination between an endoscopy and a vibrator and can even sync to facetime! You can even hook it up to your phone or your laptop! To ensure you can orgasm happily away whilst writhing around it,; they’ve even made it waterproof! The end has a special light that will illuminate the inside of your vagina so you can watch your wonderful body and how it changes when you orgasm!

 

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I think this is wonderful!! You could watch your cervix change throughout the month! It would be really helpful for women first learning natural fertility techniques, wanting to get in touch with their body and understand their hormonal cycle and for women wanting to conceive. The cervix is an incredible thing and it changes throughout our cycle. Watching as it transforms to your “power time” when we are ovulating and fertile can be fascinating and very empowering. Did you know you can tell what stage of your cycle you are up to by looking inside your vagina and looking at the opening to your cervix?  If you want to learn more about managing your fertility naturally then please get in touch with me.

It would be such a fun way to get in touch with you body and become more aware of your responses. Imagine filming yourself as you have multiple orgasms and ejaculate all over the camera or even better, imagine your lover pleasuring you and filming it all.  Imagine watching as your vagina enlarges, stretches and lengthens and then during orgasm it “dips down” to accept your lovers offering.

I’ve noticed some online responses from some women bordering on levels of digust. Why are we so afraid to look inside our beautiful tunnels of love? Our bodies are fascinating, beautiful and exquisite treasure troves of potential pleasure. There’s so much confusion out there because hardly any of us receive positive, informed and conscious sex education. Our sex education is usually just about not getting pregnant or getting any sexually transmitted diseases. I remember at school the female genitalia on the school diagrams was a simplistic line with no details whatsoever and there was no talk of female arousal, erect tissue, ejaculation, vaginal tenting, lubrication or how the vagina dipped down to “scoop up” sperm during orgasm.  Us women are brought up with so many confusing sexual messages and sexual double standards. We can be insecure about what our luscious love parts look like and not even understand how they work. And is there any surprise!?

Observing our bodies with a camera could be an amazing way to learn and educate ourselves. The more we know about our own bodies and our own response, the greater our capacity for sexual pleasure. The more our partners understand our individual bodies and how they work, the higher the potential for sexual ecstacy and connection.

If the camera is a bit daunting, perhaps just start with a mirror between your legs. Time for some gentle self exploration. What do you see? How does your vuvla change from relaxed and non-aroused state to aroused and pumped full of blood. How does your clitoris look when it becomes erect? Does the hood pull back all the way or only slightly? Exploring your body, how it works and what turns you on is key to wonderful sex and love making.

Book a session with me if you’d like to talk about feeling more comfortable with your genitals and your sexual exploration. There’s no touching in our sessions but I will write down some activities for you to try at home on your own or with a partner!

According to the website they are sold out until the middle of March, so they’re obviously very popular with some women.

It was my birthday recently.. Anyone want to buy me a belated birthday gift? 😉

Until then, happy loving!

Using poetry and writing in therapy

“Poetry Therapy” can help us to view things in different ways and gain more insight into our situations.  “Poetry therapy” can refer to  bibliotherapy (which is all about the use of literature) or  journal therapy (which is when I will ask you to do life-based reflective writing in your journal). It can also encompass storytelling and film and photography.

I’ve posted a poem by Walt Whitman for your reading pleasure. Let me know how it makes you feel once you have read it. Perhaps read it a second time to let the words really seep in.

Unfolded Out Of The Folds

UNFOLDED out of the folds of the woman, man comes unfolded, and is
always to come unfolded;
Unfolded only out of the superbest woman of the earth, is to come the
superbest man of the earth;
Unfolded out of the friendliest woman, is to come the friendliest
man;
Unfolded only out of the perfect body of a woman, can a man be form’d
of perfect body;
Unfolded only out of the inimitable poem of the woman, can come the
poems of man–(only thence have my poems come;)
Unfolded out of the strong and arrogant woman I love, only thence can
appear the strong and arrogant man I love;
Unfolded by brawny embraces from the well-muscled woman I love, only
thence come the brawny embraces of the man;
Unfolded out of the folds of the woman’s brain, come all the folds of
the man’s brain, duly obedient;
Unfolded out of the justice of the woman, all justice is unfolded;
Unfolded out of the sympathy of the woman is all sympathy: 10
A man is a great thing upon the earth, and through eternity–but
every jot of the greatness of man is unfolded out of woman,
First the man is shaped in the woman, he can then be shaped in
himself.
Walt Whitman

How to be a good sexual communicator..

On my Creative Sexpression facebook I just asked this question, “What makes great sex and what makes a great lover?” Check it out for some insightful and also quite amusing replies.
I believe one of the answers to these questions is; good sexual communication. If there’s something you really want but don’t know how to ask for it, either in life or in the bedroom, how can you enjoy true fulfillment?

Good sexual communication is a must for good sex, relationships and connection. A strong sexual self esteem, being truly sexually empowered and brimming with self confidence are essential for sexual communication. If someone feels so low they are always looking for validation in others, it will be difficult for them to communicate from a healthy place. If someone is truly sexually empowered they will not take rejection personally. Book a session with me today to embark on my sexual confidence program.

Good sexual education and knowledge are important. Sexual myths and expectation and stereotypes about men and women can make sexual communication a shady and confusing place. In school we are often only taught about sex education from a negative angle, without any focus on the positive aspects of sex and pleasure. We are taught about sex from a disease prevention and basic reproductive anatomy angle. No wonder it is so hard for us to be good sexual communicators when we were never taught these skills!

Learning how to communicate our wants, needs and desires and negotiate these accordingly are important skills in sexual communication we were never taught in school. Being a good listener and positive communicator are contribute to sexual communication with a partner.

Book a session with me today to learn how to be a better sexual communicator and have a better sex life!