Is there a link between depression and masturbation?

Does masturbation cause depression?

Masturbation doesn’t cause depression despite many times throughout history where that was believed. It was once believed that ‘nocturnal pollutions’ could make you mad, blind or insane.

Nowadays we know that’s been disproved and we understand that masturbation or self pleasuring or solo sex can help someone understand their body and sexual response, boost theirs self esteem and help them feel good.

If someone feels shame or guilt around self pleasuring it’s more likely it’s their culture or religion that has negative views about masturbation that’s making them feel terrible rather than the act itself.

The benefits of solo sex

Masturbation can help you have a much better nights sleep because after orgasm your body is flooded with delicious feel good hormones such as endorphins, dopamine and oxytocin.

Studies have found that women who have never or just don’t self pleasure themselves are less sexually satisfied in their marriages. Learning to give yourself pleasure and orgasms on your own can very often mean you will find it easier to orgasm with your partner and have more enjoyable sex.

There might also be a connection between self pleasuring yourself and having a bigger sex drive. Researchers found that women who regularly engaged in solo sex have a much bigger sex drive than women who don’t masturbate.

Orgasms get you out of your head and into your body and can almost be used in a meditative way.

Combining solo sex with tantra breathing meditation can fill you full of sexual and creative energy and help you to feel aligned with your life’s purpose. I show you how to do this at my retreats.

How does depression impact your libido?

Depression can make one lose interest in usual things that they perhaps once loved or found interesting. It can make one lose interest in sex or solo sex and as it reduces their overall energy can reduce their sexual energy and libido.

If you’re in a relationship and you’re feeling very depressed and noticed your sex drive has become very reduced it’s important to keep that connection and intimacy going with your partner or partners. Choose ways to do that like cuddling and spending one on one time together that make you feel close.

Certain anti-depressants can reduce your sex drive too and you should definitely talk to your Doctor or a sex therapist if you notice this is happening.

Kegel Exercises for women! The key to amazing orgasms!

Kegel Exercises are great for better sex and orgasmic response! A strong pelvic floor muscle enhances orgasm with oneself and with partners. Women can do these exercises at any time in the day, on the train, at work.. Nothing better to do on a long train ride! In the 1940’s Dr Kegel was gynecologist who helped women to overcome urinary incontinence through pelvic floor exercises instead of relying only on surgery. After a few months, some of his patients said they had orgasms for the first ever time.  Learning about these muscles and how to use them to your advantage can be very sexually empowering.

To find your pelvic floor muscles, stop urinating midstream. If you’ve stopped peeing, you’ve found the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles. Alternatively, can also put your finger inside your vagina and squeeze your PC muscles. You know you’re using the right muscles if you can feel the muscles tightening around your finger.

Now it’s time to perfect your technique. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for three to five seconds, and then relax for three to five seconds. It should feel like ou’re pulling your muscles up!  Try it four or five times in a row. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions. Breathing in when you tighten your muscles, and breathing out when you breathe out can help. Once you’ve mastered the beginner exercise then we can move onto more advanced techniques and breath orgasms! You can actually bring yourself to orgasm this way, no hands needed!
Using the PC muscle during sexual intercourse can give a more intense orgasm and be very pleasurable for your partner if they happen to have their penis, tongue or hand inside your vagina.
It doesn’t just feel good, it’s good for your general health too! A strong PC muscle helps with general genital health, bladder control, the bowels and overall health.
If you’d like to learn how to use your PC muscles, or you already can use them and want to learn more advanced techniques for better sex, more explosive orgasms or meditative sex or tantra exercises, get in touch today..