A History of Female Ejaculation. It does exist and it is real.

The Australian government refuses to believe it’s possible but female ejaculation has been widely written about for thousands of years across a wide range of cultures.

Did you know that UK and Australian governments have previously banned depictions of female ejaculation, stating that it’s a myth?
FACT: female ejaculation (FE) exists! Between 10 and 55 percent of women experience ejaculation and research shows the liquid is chemically different to urine. Our ‘ejaculate’ originates from the paraurethral glands and can help sperm stay alive in the vagina. There is no need to be ashamed of a healthy bodily function.


Female ejaculation and the female prostrate have been described through history from as early as Ancient Greek civilisation, so why have we forgotten all about it now?



Around 400BC Hippocrates wrote about female ‘semen’ and how he thought FE was necessary for pregnancy to take place. Aristotle disagreed with the baby connection, but he reported women having wet dreams, ejaculating in their sleep and waking up very excited! He observed FE happened at orgasm and far exceeded male ejaculate.


Then around 160AD Claudius Galenus reported women ejaculating ‘semen’ with pleasurable spasms. He studied non sexually active women and concluded that women had to ejaculate their semen regularly or they would suffer terrible pain associated with fluid build up.

Fourth century Chinese Taoist texts record the wonders of FE using much more beautiful and evocative terms than we do today. The female prostrate was described as a ‘moon flower’ that gushes copious amounts of nectar. A Chinese poem from 826AD also talks about the ‘milk fruit’ (the area we now know as the ‘G-spot’) and gives instructions for a man to stimulate this area with his finger or penis tip to bring forth the female honey. Later poems from the 13th and 14th Century explain how the G-spot becomes enlarged and ejaculates upon stimulation.

The earliest Indian reference to FE is the Kamasutra from 200–400 A.D. Other texts further explain that the key to sexual enjoyment and health is to make the woman “flow” before the man “flows”.

All these early texts clearly differentiate between vaginal lubrication and FE.

Even in the 1500s Flemish anatomist, Andreas Vesalius, wrote that women create semen or liquid during sex and ejaculate like men.

In the 1600s Reinier De Graaf explained how the periurethral glands were the female version of the male prostrate and the source of female ejaculatory fluid.  He wrote in great detail about the difference between vaginal lubrication and ejaculation.

Much later in 1954 Ernest Grafenberg reported women masturbating themselves to orgasm in eruptions of fluid. When he tested the fluid, he detected no urine and concluded it came from glands associated with the G-spot.

So there you have it! Our governments are two thousand years behind the times when it comes to female sexual functioning. Scientists from the present day to as far back as Aristotle agree – female ejaculation exists. Myth: busted.


If you’d like to learn how to ejaculate or bring your female partner to ejaculation please get in contact with me here. I offer sessions via skype, phone or in my therapy rooms in Sydney.. There is no touching in a talk therapy session, but I will give you plenty of sexy, hands on homework to try at home on your own or with your partner.

This was published in CIAO magazine.. You can also read it here http://www.ciaomagazine.com.au/a-history-of-female-ejaculation/


Self love without guilt and shame! Let’s celebrate our self loving sexual practices!

Wank, wanker the anchor,  groping the grotto, shaking hands with your John Thomas, shaking the sausage, walk through the valley of love, petting the kitty, feed the beaver, buff the python… There’s countless sland words to describe masturbation! How about we use the word self love or self sex!

Self love without guilt and shame! Let’s celebrate our self loving sexual practices! Masturbation is universally part of human sexuality. There’s so much stigma attached to masturbation when it’s perfectly healthy and good for you…

45% of women first masturbated between the ages of 10 and 14, according to a recent study.

Women who started masturbating in adolescence reach orgasm more often during sex (with others) and report less arousal difficulties.
20% of women masturbate at bedtime to help them get to sleep.


Masturbation is a great way to get to know how your body works. Some people say you should stop masturbating once you’re having regular sex or in a new relationship. I’d say you should masturbate even more, it keeps the libido on fire in between partnered sex session and reminds yourself that you can still have great orgasms on your own.
In fact, I’d even advise couples to masturbate in front of each other so that you can witness what techniques they use and learn what your partner likes. Everyone likes different things when it comes to pressure and speed, and what better way to learn than watching!
Improving your self-sex techniques improves sex with your partner! The life force is sex energy, and we can view masturbation as part of our own regime of self love.



Perhaps you could attempt to redefine masturbation as regular sexual meditation with yourself. Try an hour long session with music, oil and candles. Try different breathing techniques and pelvis movements. You could experiment with orgasm control, stop just before you have an orgasm, or after orgasm breathe into it and have another and another. Masturbation is a perfect time to learn how to have multiple orgasms and full body orgasms and for women, learn how to ejaculate.

Learning how to have full body orgasms through masturbation shows us we can have as many orgasms as we like whether we have a partner or not. We can pleasure ourself forever if we are single for the rest of our days. It’s an unconditional self loving practice that will always be there for us regardless who “abandons” us or what relationship you might end..

If you’d like to learn more book a session with me in my Sydney rooms today. I also have skype sessions available for people outside of Sydney..