Orgasms are good for you!

Are you feeling down? An orgasm could be the pick me up you need. Orgasm releases endorphins, dopamine and oxytocin. These three are the big three of mood enhancing hormones. Dopamine is the same hormone that your body releases if you use a drug like cocaine or eat a really delicious food.  Mmm and orgasms are much better for your health than drugs!
A recent survey of 1,800 women found that over 30% of them used sexual release as a natural sedative. Is that how you get to sleep when you’re having trouble relaxing?  This brings to mind a certain Seinfeld episode, if anyone can remember that one? No one could get to sleep when the characters were having a little competition amongst themselves!
Orgasms are a natural painkiller. Victorian Doctors were onto something when they said orgasms could soothe certain aches and pains-expecially migraines and menstrual cramps. Who needs panadol?
Apparently the contractions that women have during orgasm can actually evacuate blood clots during menstruation, which can give temporary relief.
Guess what? We actually do “glow” after sex. The hormone DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone), can actually make your skin healthier and this hormone skyrockets during sexual activity.When Harry Met Sally
Orgasms are wonderful for stress relief. A lot of us live hectic and busy lives and don’t have much time for relaxation. Hormones during orgasm help us relax and cope with stress and they help our mind have a break. Being sexual helps you be in the moment and only think about one thing only. Often we are always thinking of many things at once.  For many people the only time they have an experience similar to meditation is when they have sex or masturbate.
Orgasms also nourish the brain with oxygen. MRI images show that our  brains use much more oxygen during orgasm than usual. So a bit of self loving is good for your brain!
Orgasms benefit your emotional health..  If you know how to pleasure yourself and take yourself to orgasm it may actually increase your emotional intelligence and sexual confidence. You make much better decisions in relationships when you understand how your body works and that it is capable of amazing pleasure on its own.  You don’t need to affirm our status as a sexual being by looking to someone else. You know that you are a sexual being on your own and you can have mind blowing orgasms on your own.
Need some help or advice? Never had an orgasm or have a partner that hasn’t had an orgasm? Get in touch with me today for a confidential session.

I’m a sex and relationship columnist for a Sydney newspaper!

I’m really excited to announce that I’m writing a column for a Sydney newspaper about sex and relationships! Go and pick up the latest CIAO magazine if you live in the Inner West of Sydney.
I’ve just written a piece on the rise of the sexy “selfie.” I noticed a lot of journalists were getting very preachy and self righteous about it so I thought I’d offer my alternative opinion! Have a read of my article and let me know what you think!

You can read it here, http://www.ciaomagazine.com.au/rise-of-the-sexy-selfie/

I don’t deserve great sex, intimacy or connection. What are you telling yourself?

Rather than telling yourself, “I can’t do this. I am weak etc etc” try telling yourself these things instead. “I am important. I am lovable. I deserve good things.  Everything will work out. Things will get better. I am strong. I can do this. I can be who I truly am. “

Why do I keep stressing our internal dialogues as a sex therapist you ask? The things we tell ourselves repetitively are the things that we believe. We literally convince ourselves. This translates into our relationships and our sex lives. Changing this internal dialogue with ourselves is an important step in becoming empowered, owning our personal power, improving our sexual self esteem and transforming our sex lives and our relationships.

If we keep telling ourselves that we don’t deserve any better, that we are ugly and unattractive, that we deserve to be treated badly, that we won’t find anyone better, that no one will love us, that we are stupid, bad and unlovable and our happiness depends on other people– then how do you think this will influence our intimate relationships and choice of partner or lover?
If you’d like to explore this further and get your sexual self esteem back on track, book a session with me today. Let’s extend that compassion that we can feel so strongly for other people, towards ourselves. I would love to hear from you!
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