Christmas can be an emotional time for a lot of us. We can struggle with memories of people we used to have with us at this time of year, there’s a lot of pressure and expectations and family events. Setting up high expectations can lead to disappointment and a sense of failure. A lot of couples are so affected by the stress of Christmas that there are high levels of divorce rates around this time or you might be meeting the family of your new love with all the stress and nerves associated with that.
When everything seems like it’s getting too much-remember to breathe properly! When we are stressed or anxious we breathe in a shallow and fast way. Take a deep breath in through your nose to the count of five and slowly release to the count of five.. Feel your in breath filling your whole body with peace, patience and love as you breathe out the stress and negativity. Imagine a colour that you like filling up your whole body when you breathe in, so that your entire being is glowing with it! When you breathe out imagine a colour you don’t like blowing out through your mouth. Try to repeat this five to ten times and see what a difference it makes.
Rather than get dragged down into the routine of Christmas, how about we see it as an exciting holiday where we can open ourselves up to more pleasure and love and be gentle with ourselves? Prioritise sexy time with yourself or your lover. How about your give your body as a gift to your lover? Be kind to yourself. Take some time out for yourself or your family. Stress can have a very bad effect on our health, so try to take some time out. If you have a partner, take the night off and just spend it with your lover.. Spoil yourself.
Traditionally the burning of the Yule log was all about the death of the old year and the beginning of the new. What patterns and destructi
ve ways can you leave behind in 2013? If you had your own Yule log what could you imagine burning away and what new things would be left in its place, things you can embrace for 2014?
Around this time of year in Ancient Rome they celebrated the festival of Saturnalia, a holiday in honor of the sowing god, Saturn. There was much drinking, sexual indulgence and singing songs naked in the streets.. It was a raucous festival and apparently the best festival of the year. Masters swapped roles with their slaves and served them dinner, presents were given and greenery was put up as decorations. I just like to point out the ancient pagan origins of Christmas to non Christians who get upset about these holidays because they see them as a purely Christian or commercial holiday. This ancient holiday goes way back before Christianity!
If you might be spending Christmas on your own, reach out to others. Christmas can be a very lonely time for some. Some single men recently surveyed said they dreaded Christmas more than Valentines Day. The expectations that you should be with family or should be having a great time when the reality is very different can make us feel miserable. You could have an Orphan Christmas with friends whose family is far away, do some volunteer work or join a group that has activities over this period.
Get out and about in Nature! If you can do this with someone whose company you enjoy this can be a great way to spend your time off reconnecting and recharging your ‘batteries.’
Here’s hoping you have a fun, safe, loving Holiday season full of incredible sex(with yourself or partnered), intimacy and connection!
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e a similar situation. Although NSW is one of the few places in the world that sex work is decriminalised and there has never been a documented case of HIV transmission from sex worker to client and sex workers have lower rates of STI’s than women in the general community, they are still stigmatised in the media and experience assault and murder.
Recently in Melbourne a woman was brutally murdered. Her name was Tracey Connelly. Aged forty, Tracey was found dead in a van she was living in with her partner Mr Melissovas on Sunday July 21. She was a sex worker. Connelly’s brutal death was given a lot less press than the recent murder of Jill Meagher and it disappeared quickly from the headlines. Connelly seemed to get less sympathy from the press, as if her occupation meant she was less of an ‘innocent victim.’ 
ces. Calling her a ‘prostitute’ in the headlines, reduced her personhood and dehumanised her. I found the coverage pretty disappointing. There’s an interesting piece from the Kings Tribune that goes into more detail 
We are powerful beyond measure, and so deeply vulnerable at the same time. This may seem like a dichotomy, but it isn’t. We have misunderstood real power. It has been something assertive, non-surrendering, pushing on through. This is not real power. This is simply willfulness. Real power is something else- receptivity, openness, the courage to keep your heart open on the darkest of days, the strength to feel it all even when the odds are stacked against you. Real power is showing up with your heart on your sleeve and absolutely refusing to waste one moment of your life hidden behind edginess and armor. -Jeff Brown
Are you feeling down? An orgasm could be the pick me up you need. Orgasm releases endorphins, dopamine and oxytocin. These three are the big three of mood enhancing hormones. Dopamine is the same hormone that your body releases if you use a drug like cocaine or eat a really delicious food. Mmm and orgasms are much better for your health than drugs!
to orgasm it may actually increase your emotional intelligence and sexual confidence. You make much better decisions in relationships when you understand how your body works and that it is capable of amazing pleasure on its own. You don’t need to affirm our status as a sexual being by looking to someone else. You know that you are a sexual being on your own and you can have mind blowing orgasms on your own.
is open, and I can smell the heady, intoxicating scent from the jasmine flowering outside. The sun is shining and summer is on it’s way! I can hear lots of baby birds tweeting and I feel more energetic and positive! I’ve illustrated this blog with some images I’ve taken on my mobile of Nature in all her Springtime splendour around my North Shore art studio and counselling space. I’ve also added some photos of the beautiful wildflowers that are blossuming in the native bush around Sydney right now.
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fuels all of the other hopes of humanity (mastery, survival, and spirituality). Until quite recently, psychology has paid little attention to the human need for contact with nature. A rare exception was Rollo May who suggested there is inevitable regret when human beings go too long without an immersion in nature. In an intriguing book on personality theory, Robert Hogan noted that humans often go to great lengths to recreate a replica of the green temperate context from which they evolved. Environmental psychology, a relatively new field, is now reinforcing these in
sights. One study showed that children attending a school with windows overlooking nature were less aggressive, less likely to be labeled as “ADD”, and more attentive in the classroom.